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i have a boy friend and he has been smoking b4 we met. he told me he was done smoking but i keep finding out that he is still smoking how can i get him to stop. he is way to young to smoke. HELP ME!
Mike_T says:
I know exactly how you feel, I was in a very similar situation. I remember that I was so nervous at that time and I took it out on everyone around me. I didnt know what could I do until, thanks god, I found Smoke Deter. Now I can look back and laugh on myself and in the same time I remember how helpless I was. I hope that I'll never be in the same situation again
So you have a boyfriend who lies to you?
Kick him to the curb and get a new boyfriend.
"how can u get someone to stop smoking?" — I’m afraid you can’t make people do what they don’t want to. Your boyfriend will stop smoking if this is what he wants to do. It has to be his choice, his decision.
"he is way to young to smoke." — No one is the "right age" to smoke.
"he told me he was done smoking but i keep finding out that he is still smoking" — He hasn’t been honest with you. You have to decide what’s important to you. Is it important to you that you be around people who don’t smoke? Is it important to you that you can trust the one you call boyfriend? If you find that you’re unable to accept him — dishonesty, smoking habit and all — then the obvious course of action is to break up with him and find yourself an honest, nonsmoker. And make sure the next boyfriend has never smoked then it won’t be an issue.
Tell him ugly TRUE stories like that smoking makes your lungs black, or you’ll dump him, or when he’s near you push him away + say "you stink" or "your breath smells". Or say his teeth look yellow. Things like that(.
You can’t get someone to stop smoking. They have to want to stop and smoking is an addictive behavior because he is addicted to the cigarettes. There is now a medication (Chantix) which can help people stop smoking when added to a stop smoking class, he has the highest chance to stop but this has to come from his desire to stop, not yours. And, if anyone in his family smokes, the chances of him stopping are very, very small.
You cannot make him stop smoking. He has to want to stop. You can talk to you about how it makes you feel, and about your concerns for him. Don’t talk about how HE makes you feel when he smokes. Talk about how the SMOKING makes you feel. He will be less defensive if you stick to talking about the action instead of the person doing the action. Offer your support when he’s ready. Remember, he’s the one who has to do it, and he has to want to!
And when/if he decides he’s ready, remember that it’s an addiction, and it’s hard to just stop. Be there to listen if needed. Don’t be judgmental.