My granmother wants to smoke and is slowly killing herself which is tearing my mother up. So my mom yells at my gran, who gives in and has cut down the smoking dramatically. My gran is sick with COPD and can barely breathe.
I am a smoker who is trying to quit but when I am around my gran wants to smoke more. So everyone wants me to yell at her not to smoke but I don’t even like yelling. I have tried talking with her as an adult but there is real langauge barriers.
So whats the right choice?
Mike_T says:
I know exactly how you feel, I was in a very similar situation. I remember that I was so nervous at that time and I took it out on everyone around me. I didnt know what could I do until, thanks god, I found Smoke Deter. Now I can look back and laugh on myself and in the same time I remember how helpless I was. I hope that I'll never be in the same situation again
i am a smoker myself. it is so hard for your gran to stop smoking when she enjoys it so much.
it was recently found out that there is no cure for COPD. The damage to the airways and lungs cannot be reversed, but there are things you can do to feel better and slow the damage……. still it takes at least 14 years to even make her feel better or slow further damage if your gran quits totally and completely right now with no cigarettes ever again.
how old is your gran? if she is in her late 60’s or early 70’s, why stop her from enjoying a cigarette now and then? she is not young and maybe will live another 15 to 20 productive years.
at this stage in my like and at my age, i do not expect to quit smoking anytime. i am not young either and had cancer several years ago that had nothing to do with smoking. i want to enjoy the little things in life and one of them is lighting up a cigarette.
i know it is poison to my body….but my body has had lots of poison pumped into it with the chemicals i breath daily, the unhealthy food that i have eaten all throughout my life and the genes i have in my body that predisposes me to illnessess.
lol….. life is such an uncertainty that i will take my chances and enjoy the years i have left in this earth and not have anyone yell at me because that makes life unbearable and not worth living….
My step mom has this disease as well. I am a smoker, and I still feel sick when she lights up. She knows how I and the rest of the family feels, but if she is going to quit, she’ll have to do it on her own. She’s a grown woman who will make her own choices. She knows the consequences, just the way you and I do every time we light up. Just let her know how you feel about it and never contribute to her habit.
Sounds like you need to quit smoking first
quitting has to start with the smokers desire to quit.
without this key factor it’s almost impossible
I quit at age 66