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My mom is 57 and shes been smoking for 40 years. I try so hard to try to get her to stop. i dont want to watch her kill herself cause i will kill myself.. How do I get her to stop? It seems i tried everything. Please dont tell me i cant.
TO TAROTPETE: I should fu** you up.
Mike_T says:
I know exactly how you feel, I was in a very similar situation. I remember that I was so nervous at that time and I took it out on everyone around me. I didnt know what could I do until, thanks god, I found Smoke Deter. Now I can look back and laugh on myself and in the same time I remember how helpless I was. I hope that I'll never be in the same situation again
Oh mind your own fucking business.
its really hard to stop – especailly 40 yrs you have to be strict and tell them that they dont want to get cancer
I wont lie to you, this is gonna be hard. Maybe you should seek out a prof. to come and talk to her.
stopsmokingDFW.com or 1-877-30smoke. Good Luck!!
I have the same problem except for my mom is 37 and she’s been smoking since she was 13, i’ve talked 2 her but it’s hard 2 get her 2 listen because she’s done it soo long she can’t stop, try getting info online about lung cancer and how it’s caused and some facts about smoking and print them off for her
i know smoking is a bad habit, stinky, and leads to cancer, etc, but i think you should respect your mom’s decision to smoke. if she wants to stop smoking, then help her stop, but if she wants to keep smoking, don’t harp on her about it. enjoy your time with her.
There are advertisement on TV I saw that helps you stop smoking so watch TV and find the advertisement about how to quit smoking.
Only she can make herself quit.
My mom smoked off and on from when she was 16, and on from when she was 18. She died from terminal emphysema when she was 49 – almost 6 years ago. She would have turned 55 on the 17th.
Besides telling her that you want her to be around to enjoy her grandchildren and to give you advice on becoming a wife and mother and that you love her and need her in your life…..share this with her:
Quitting smoking makes a difference right away – you can taste and smell food better. Your breath smells better. Your cough goes away. This happens for men and women of all ages, even those who are older. It happens for healthy people as well as those who already have a disease or condition caused by smoking.
Quitting smoking cuts the risk of lung cancer, many other cancers, heart disease, stroke, other lung diseases, and other respiratory illnesses.
Ex-smokers have better health than current smokers. Ex-smokers have fewer days of illness, fewer health complaints, and less bronchitis and pneumonia than current smokers.
Quitting smoking saves money. A pack-a-day smoker, who pays $2 per pack can, expect to save more than $700 per year. It appears that the price of cigarettes will continue to rise in coming years, as will the financial rewards of quitting.
GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS!
First get an empty mayo jar av. in size (I mean not the small kind and not the big kind) fill it with molasses about 1/2 inch from the top. Tell her that that is what is in a pack a day for one year smoker. Its true I saw it at my college. I will pray for you and her.
The most important thing is that your mom have the desire to stop smoking for herself, not you. Call your local Cancer Society and ask them to send you some information about the subject. All you can do is give it to your mom and tell her that because you love her, you want her to be around for a long time and that statistics show that smoking shortens ones life and increases the likelihood of respiratory illnesses. You might try taking her to a local long term care facility where there are many people on oxygen and so depleted physically that they are in wheel chairs. Many health care agencies put on Health Fairs in local communities. Try taking her to one of those. There are usually nurses manning tables or booths to promote smoking cessation.
You may have better luck if you work downwards. If you pressure her to stop all at once, she will probably not be able to. Smoking has several parts, all of them habits, that make it very hard to stop. First of all, smokers tend to smoke more when they’re stressed, so when you pressure her to quit, you’re adding stress and making it more difficult. She knows the risks, and she knows you want her to stop, so work out a compromise. Start out by making certain times or places non smoking. She can smoke in these two rooms (not where the tv is or where there is a comfortable place to sit). That way, she’ll have to go there to smoke. Secondly, she can’t carry her cigarettes with her, they are only to be in the cupboard in the kitchen (which isn’t one of her smoking places, by the way. If you are going in the car, she has to let you carry her cigarettes, and she gets one on the way, and one while you’re there. You might also get her some nicotine lozenges, so if she’s watching something she really likes and would want to smoke, instead of leaving the show to smoke, she can use a lozenge. After time, she’ll be able to longer and longer without a cigarette. She might never quit altogether, but you can help her cut back a lot. Remember to keep telling her positive things when she’s not smoking and not hammering negative things at her when she is. Don’t judge her, help her.
Good Luck
Contact the health dept or children’s museum in your area they have smoke cessation programs. I saw one were they used a lung of a animal and they showed the difference between a clean lung and one filled with smoke. Maybe you can take her to something like that
Tell her exactly wat u thinking and feeling and shes ur mother she will understand.
I know what you mean my mom just stop try this.
1) try talking to her tell her it’s because you care.
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Dear, Ava,
I had smoked for 16 years, starting with one cigarette every now and then during the first couple of months and ending with about three packs a day almost ten years later. After I "achieved" this level of cigarette consumption, I spent the last six years of my smoking life trying to give-up smoking. I changed friends and eating habits, and I spent four hours of life at the gym daily, but to no avail. I had also tried to cut-down on the number of cigarettes I smoked per day by hiding the pack, or by forcing myself to run out of cigarettes at night. I was able to maitain it for a couple of days with a struggle, only to smoke a lot more at the slightest occasion and change in my routine. Today, I’m smoke-free. I have been a non-smoker for more than seven years. I can’t bear its smell around me at all, thank God, and the best part of it all – it was Cold Turkey.
I guess what I’m trying to say, as others may have suggested, is that nobody could help your mom but your mom herself, and God. He never changes what’s in people’s minds and hearts until they really want to change theirselves. Nicotine patches, gums, and the like, are all nonsense. Some may help her reduce smoking for a short period of time, but none is a long-term cure. Any help your mom gets from others – you, groups, etc., will never be definite. In general, addicts go back to the bad habit with a vengence. The level of consumption multiplies at a fast pace when they are forced to give up the habit. I personally did not seek help from anybody whatsoever. It was a personal matter, and I had to take care of it myself. Armed with my personality and conviction, I decided that smoking is bad anyway we try to put it.
Your mom has to have the strong will, and the conviction, to understand that smoking not only hurts her, but it also hurts people around her. You are a newly wed who’s maybe planning on having a baby soon. Therefore, you and your fetus, and eventually baby, will be around her, thus become second-hand smokers. She has to stop being selfish!!! She has to understand that craving a cigarette is all in the mind, not in the blood, hence the pleasure associated with nicotene consumption. Some people argue that it has to do with the level of nicotine in the blood. I think I qualify as an example to prove otherwise. It has to do with the personality and the way we associate smoking with other things, such as after a meal, a candy, with a cup of coffee, or during a happy occasion or tough times in life. Some people are addicted to gambling, eating, shopping, sex, etc. Is this in the blood, or is it in the mind?? Another example, when drug addicts go through some rehabilitation programs and become "clean," why do most of them go back to drugs when they face the slightest mishab in life?? The answer to this question brings me to the next and most important "weapon" into fighting addiction – faith in God.
You had mentioned that you "..don’t want to watch her kill hereself…" I think that the best help your mom could get is through her faith in God. When we condem and condone, we create a sense of responsibility, and by associating faith with science, things tend to make more sense. For example, it is good faith to wish for others what we wish for ourselves. With this in mind, and since it was scientifically proven that smoking and second-hand smoking are major contributors to deaths caused by lung cancer and heart diseases, it means that your mom is wishing death for those around her as she is wishing for herself. As a result of that scenario, your mom would end up not only losing the worldly life, but also the hereafter, for committing a sin by taking her own life with her own hands, and for planning on taking your life along with hers. I think it’s time to think about life and death, and what comes after life, now that she’s 57, and a smoker, for life is too short to take it for granted.
Mom!! You are better and stronger than that!! My motivation to taking the time to write these words is the fact that you are a mother, and what a great title you have. Your daughter is now married and will be having children soon. Don’t you want to be around when this happen?? Don’t you want to see them grow and get married?? Don’t you want to teach them that smoking is bad?? If you don’t want to do it for yourself, do it for the people around you. They all love you and care for you, so..love them back, and give-up that fealthy, unhealthy, and nasty habit of smoking!
Good luck from a son, an ex-smoker, and a caring individual.