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*Please do not judge me because I smoke weed, but if you have any information, or helpful advice please give it to me 
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Okay, first off, I am 16 1/2 years old. I have been in some trouble in the past 2-5 years .. i smoke cigarettes, weed, and drink alcohol. My parents have accepted that I smoke cigarettes and usually buy them for me, some people dont agree with that, but I have more than half of my friends being over 18, and my parents smoked when they were younger and know how addictive it is. With the whole marijuana thing, weed relaxes me, and takes alot, and i mean alot, of stress away. I have never been caught by the police with weed, and im not saying it couldnt happen, but I am a respectful weed smoker and mostly will smoke a little bit before bed, or in the morning, etc., but I am never high to the point my personality changes. My close friend just got murdered 2 weeks ago, my cousin died in a car crash in June 2009, my grandma died when I was 6, my great grandma died when I was 12, and my grandpa has cancer as of right now is expected to live no more than 3 months. I try and block everything out but Its hard. I believe weed should be legal, and i dont want treatment for weed because I do not feel I have a problem. My parents apparently talked to my therapist about it (I have ADHD & ODD – ODD is oppositional defiancy disorder). My therapist is very highly rated and she told my parents I didnt want to agree to treatment. I guess it would be random urine tests, etc., until I stop or something like that. My therapist told my parents I have 2 options, the easy and the hard. Either I go to her, or she is going to help them to get me in with the court. Apparently the court would test more often and possibly (probably) either have me put into a rehab or a nonpermanent home. I am going to try and work around the whole ordeal all together but I don’t feel as if I am being given ANY rights as an american citizen. I did not harm anybody, yet I may have to be put into a rehab, or taken from my home just because I smoke weed every once in a while?? What are my rights? Also, I have trust problems.. to the fullest, how is my therapist helping AT ALL by attempting to MAKE me go here, and behind my back telling my parents things they can do to basically screw me over. I reallly really need help. You can e-mail me at : thr0wdhabzuhp@yahoo.com , but I prefer answers here. I don’t even want to go to this therapist, but basically my parents are threatning that either I go to her or I am being put into a home.
Please, please help ! 
by the way – nobody knows me, thank you to the people who didnt judge me, but i have been through WAY WAY WAY more than death in my life. lol. i watched my cousin overdose on heroine when i was 8 years old. ive been raped. the whole bit. but im not saying my life is hard, NOT ONE TIME did i say my life is hard, people will always have it worse. but that doesnt mean i dont have it bad :/ . and i have alot of problems, but when i smoke weed, i am nicer, and i care more. when i dont smoke weed, i am depressed, and really really anger and dont want to take my medication.
oh and to the CKUNT that said oppositional defiancy order is a joke, bxtch, i didnt diagnose myself. i got diagnosed and forced to go the this therapist. i hope i never see you in my life cause it will not be pretty, no threat intended 
Mike_T says:
I know exactly how you feel, I was in a very similar situation. I remember that I was so nervous at that time and I took it out on everyone around me. I didnt know what could I do until, thanks god, I found Smoke Deter. Now I can look back and laugh on myself and in the same time I remember how helpless I was. I hope that I'll never be in the same situation again
I understand how you feel. I’m 22 now, but when I was your age, I did all the same things. Its easy to feel like everyone is against you. As far as your rights, unfortunately, being a minor, at this point you don’t have many. Smoking weed IS illegal in America, and that won’t change in the foreseeable future. Its really hard to offer advice when I don’t know you personally, so all I can say is, try to continue staying out of trouble, and when you talk to your parents about the situation, remain calm.
Your 16 1/2. You have no rights. Your a CHILD. And weed is a drug and it is addictive.. it affects your life! I can’t tell you how many weed smokers I know that steal money/valuables just to get some. Its also a gateway to stronger, more dangerous drugs. Your parents and your therapist are looking our for whats best for you. So stop whining and grow up!
And oppositional defiancy disorder, are you serious? That is just an excuse to be defiant to your parents and get away with it.
i completely understand your story! i’m 17 and i smoke pretty regularly. i’ve had shxt for grades my past 2 years of school, this year the lowest grade i’ve gotten is only one c. my mom wants me to stop but she doesn’t understand that it’s helped me with focusing on my goals, relaxing and some of my medical problems. idk your parents, but i’m guessing that they probably aren’t the type that you can bring to our side of the story, so that’s out of the question. but what i think you should do is try as hard as you can to convince them that you don’t anymore. i’m not saying that you should stop, because that’s what i’d consider a last resort. but there are things like detox drinks that actually do work and are only $10-20 so you can use those to your advantage. also you can drink tons of water, cranberry juice and other things that include antioxidants to help cleanse your system. i wish there were rights to protect pot smokers instead of against us, we’re just trying to live in peace. maybe in a better world there will be. good luck! i hope everything works out for you, i truly truly mean it
and to all of you people out there bashing this poor girl. shut the fxck up and go do something productive with your life besides just repeating each other and the things that every pot smoker knows. people know it’s illegal and that obviously doesn’t matter to us. pot was only made illegal in America in the early 20th century, back when there were monopolies and corruption. the oil companies basically ran the country and saw potential competition from cannabis so they pushed to make it illegal. the benefits of smoking completely outweigh the chance of getting caught.
and to those of you saying that pot isn’t going to be legalized in the "foreseeable future", go take a look at the California ballot for 2010. legalization of marijuana could very well be the future.
Look , no one is doing this to be against you. Your parents as you said have been through this and they don’t want you to go through what they did. They want whats best for you. They want you to be healthy and clean (: I understand things haven’t gone well and you may be under a lot of stress, but you need to start fresh and this could be a new beginning. You don’t need to be put in a home, maybe a little rehab for help and you could find new habits to calm you down. Good luck & say hello to new beginnings :]
You do need help, but not the kind you are asking for. Go back and read what you just wrote. Can’t you see that you are using weed to get out of life? You mention all the things that have happened to you, losing loved ones and all. Well, guess what? Those things happen to EVERYONE and we don’t all opt out by smoking weed or drinking or taking other drugs. How will you ever have a happy life if you refuse to EXPERIENCE life?
Your parents are right insisting you see a therapist. And, sorry to say, at age 16 you simply do not have ‘rights’ as an American citizen, your parents have the right — the responsibility — to do what they feel is best for you. Can’t you see that they are PROTECTING you from a life filled with drugs and regrets?
I wish you the best of luck.
First of All, I am so sorry to hear that youve had to go through all that, it must be tough esp that age. But its sounds like its more than a problem than just smoking a little here a little there, if there talking about taking court action. Im telling you, you should just quit, if you say your not addicted, quit because you can, quit because its your choice. dont make it theres OR THE COURTS! and im telling you im 21 now and i used to smoke weed and do drugs ive been to juvy and got into a lot of trouble when i was a kid but i quit all that shit. And There forcing you cause they can, (you’ll get it later im still trying to understand some of the stuff)but my parents did all that stuff to me, and it fu**ing sucks but once ur 18 your done unless you have to do court stuff and I will tell you that you better go to rehab then have the courts be involved because once there involved mommy and daddy have to listen to them too. so if the courts say do this, u have NO choice niether will your parents.
Anywho, I know it relaxes you find something else, ( thats not drugs are alcohol) they seem like it at first but they will make everything 10x harder. I started taking pills (oxycotins,methadones,vicodin,perkiset) just for fun and it really helped my stress and got me motived and really helped with what i was going through at the time. and I was always in a good mood but 1 year and some months later, im addicted and i can’t do day to day things without them, withdrawling sucks, and I am always broke cause there so god damn expensive, but im working on getting suboxones for treatment.
Anyways So your using stuff to not feel all the pain and when u hang out with friends n stuff,which when pot doesn’t do it anymore you will be out doing other drugs because you dont want to feel that anymore. your hard life doesn’t give you a green card or any legal rights to be a stoner and smoke cigarettes thats just the cards in life u were dealt and u need to grow up and deal, (people do it everyday) and you have no rights because its a class 2 felony drug. Sorry not trying to lecture or tell you something you dont wanna hear, just letting you know a little what ive experienced and I’ve been caught with dirty UA’s you have to do community service, pay fines up the ass, and go to jail or rehab,
Also you say your 16 and 1/2 you got 1 and half more years! and you will have rights once you MOVE OUT! you’ll live we all did. also i quit pot when i was 16 because it was making me lazy i was getting really bad grade no job and have you noticed that all the stoners have really bad hygiene? i dont know just some advice but in ur best interest dont go through the f**king courts and give them the benifit of the doubt they just want ur money. and remember its ur choice no one elses if u quit its easier to just go with it then fight everything.
Good luck with whichever you chose
1) Parents are responsible to protect their kids, provide for their kids, shelter their kids. They put great hopes and dreams that their kids will have a better life than they had, blah, blah, blah. they want to you succeed. So they are doing this TO HELP YOU!!!!! They don’t want to screw you over, they want to help you be able to deal with things better!
2) You think weed should be legal. You think you are find, you think you can just whatever you want, you think you don’t need school or an education. BUT – as a minor, you HAVE TO go to school, you HAVE TO go where your parents say, you HAVE TO do what your parents want you to do. Because you are under 18 and are not considered an adult yet.
3) Sorry, but you sound completely screwed up. You smoke, drink alcohol, and smoke weed? And you have just about every alphabet mental illness in existence. You you actually think the smokes, the weed and the alcohol HELPS your alphabet list? NO. And trying to just block all that has happened DOESN"T WORK!!!! You know it doesn’t work! You don’t want to deal with your emotions, your grief, so you just want to zone out and be high. That’s not how you deal with stuff!
4) Tell them you need help dealing with your emotions more than you need help to stop smoking weed.