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my husband has had two heart attacks and has to stop smoking. hes hasnt. i dont want to be a nagging wife
what should i do?
Mike_T says:
I know exactly how you feel, I was in a very similar situation. I remember that I was so nervous at that time and I took it out on everyone around me. I didnt know what could I do until, thanks god, I found Smoke Deter. Now I can look back and laugh on myself and in the same time I remember how helpless I was. I hope that I'll never be in the same situation again
He will only stop when and "if" he’s ready to. In the meantime just be grateful for all you have and don’t waste time on nagging. Life is too short. I would try from time to time to encourage him to stop but thats as far as it can go. Good Luck to both of you.
You’re not nagging when you’re saving his life. I would suggest you take some action, and help him stop it. Buy something to help. If you don’t do something you may lose him.
All the best!
dont nag. that only pisses people off. get the nicotine lozengers, and gum and have it arouond. also celery helps. cut it up and leave it around. it tastes terrible with tobacco. dont hide the cigareeetes, but dont help either. remove lighters, matches ashtrays, dont let hm smoke in the house or car or near you. lmake himn shower when hes been smoking so you dont have tosmellit. give him positives when he doesnt smoke, but dont say anything when he does. good luck its really really hard. Harder to quit that heroin or cocaine.
tell him how much you love him, and that your going to need him around… that would do it for me
you can do nothing, he has to want it. I quit smoking after many years and I found that cold turkey, was the best way. It’s not easy as it is an addiction. Surviving 2 heart attacks is insane. He dodged the bullet twice. Maybe if you showed him pictures of a cancer ridden body, or someone actually gasping for a breath with emphazema, he would get it. Dying from cancer, is not a pretty sight. Having a major heart attack isn’t fun either. All you have to do to live, is stop. Iam sure you would die for your family, why won’t you live for them?
quit nagging -he knows the risks. get some counseling for yourself cuz you can only change YOU.
When he’s not smoking, you need to tell him factual things about smoking that make you think and are scary, such as:
- You smoke because "the man" wants you to smoke
- Cigarretes were invented right during WWI, because it was a drug, and to mask the stench of dead bodies. It is a modern invention. How did people survive without cigarrettes before?
- Don’t tell him what he shouldn’t do, tell him what he should do: like replace one habit with another. Tell him to just eat when he feels like smoking.
- Tell him that the reason people smoke is not because they like it, it’s because of an unresolved emotional issue. Which is true. When he knows what his issue is, he will be more willing.
- Find documentation and ads. Show them to him. Make him mad. It’s better mad than dead.