my boyfriend really doesn’t like me smoking and i want to quit. The only reason he wants me to stop is because emphysemia runs in my dads side of the family, and quite a few members of his family died from cancer, and he watched his grandad pass away from cancer. Please help me, any suggestions would be great. thank you. x
Mike_T says:
I know exactly how you feel, I was in a very similar situation. I remember that I was so nervous at that time and I took it out on everyone around me. I didnt know what could I do until, thanks god, I found Smoke Deter. Now I can look back and laugh on myself and in the same time I remember how helpless I was. I hope that I'll never be in the same situation again
I quit 11 years ago by first cutting down drastically. I switched to ultralights (didn’t like it at first, but kept going). Then I started using a system of filters I got in America which gradually removed everything I was inhaling. After a couple of months I was basically sucking on air. I found I could watch a film all the way through without a cigarette and eventually was able to go all day at work without a cigarette break. Then it was just the oral & manual thing I had to overcome.
I was lucky at that point. I met a lovely man who didn’t smoke (we’ve been married 10 years now) and he took me camping around the coast of Sardinia for 2 weeks. I left the cigarettes in the car at the airport and never used them again (when I had an occasional pang, I turned my full attentions onto my new fella).
In retrospect the trick for me was motivation and the opportunuty to get away from that same old sofa, in front of the same old telly, with the same old cup of coffee in my hand and the same old smoking ex, all the things that made me crave a cigarette.
Good luck!
Another brilliant example of motivation & opportunity is my 64-year-old mother-in-law. She knew I didn’t want smokers around her new granddaughter and she quit cold turkey when she came to stay with us for a few weeks after the baby was born. She had smoked 40-a-day for 40 years. She’s been off them a year now!
If that isn’t enough for you though, I have had several friends who have quit successfully with Allen Carr’s Easy Way to Stop Smoking. The idea is that you simply read this book and you have quit by the time you finish it. I know it sounds mad, but it really did work for 3 of my friends.
Kill yourself
stop buying them perhaps?
try chewing nicotine chewing gum instead
To be honset there is no quick and easy way !!! It is very hard !!! What you really need is WILLPOWER and lots of it !!! Good luck
dont buy any and put up with the cravings. simple as that.
Find a hobby. Go work out, you’ll feel healthier.
Patches are good and the inhalators. Will power is sadly the main requirement. Good luck
you wouldn’t be asking this question if you hadn’t started smoking in the first place. Just throw out all the cicarettes and jsut dont smoke take up a new thing insted like chewing bubble gum all the time.
i got a cold/bronchitis and couldn’t smoke because it hurt and haven’t touch one since!
1) Don’t buy sigarettes
2) Don’t carry sigarette lighters/matches
3) Watch pictures of lung cancer caused by smoking at least twice a day
Hi friend, it is so about determination. I f you really want to, you can – and please do not go down the road of gum and patches – you are still putting off the day you want better for your self
Don’t light up!
I am 54, so have known lots of people who have stopped smoking. All of them did just that, they stopped. Don’t light up, it gets easier and easier as time passes.
I think it would be better if you stopped for yourself and not because someone wants you to.
Hi Kylie – the best way to stop is to just STOP! It need will-power though, as do all things like Nicorrette patches etc. The best way is to set a day, stick to that deadline, then every time you want a cig in the future just think about the fact that so many of your family have died from it. Itll put you off Im sure! Also, take up something like a hobby or new interest to focus on. This will also really help.
I smoke, have done for about 10 years, but I wont quit because I like it, meaning that I dont have any will power and consequently fail every time I think I’ll stop! Hope Ive helped. Bex :O)
When I met my girlfriend now wife, we both smoked 20+ per day.
I stopped smoking 5 years ago but my wife continued…however, since then she has quit. She quit 2 years ago.
Perhaps financial gain is the route to take. For every 20 fags not smoked, put the equivalent £’s in a pot. This pot will soon add up and then MUST be spent by the x-smoker on whatever he/she wants to spend it on. The other obvious gain is health…it takes a long time, but bad health due to smoking DOES reverse. Some issues slowly, others rapidly. The Nicotine addiction takes a relatively short time to pass, sometimes 2 – 3 weeks…this ‘cold turkey’ stage includes symptoms like hunger pains, headaches, shakes etc.
The hardest part of not smoking is the habitual side, especialy if the person is a ’social’ smoker. This of course will be hard next year anyway because of new laws.
Also, in my personal experience again, there is ALWAYS an excuse why it is a bad time to quit…set a date in the future for when the smoking will stop. I set a three month time scale and I convinced myself so much that I wanted to stop over the course of these three months that when the date came, I was hardly smoking at all.
Also, try http://www.smokeworm.com/index.htm
Allen Carr The Easy Way..
available on CD; DVD; book or clinic.
Both myself and my partner stopped 14 days ago, both heavy smokers for 20 years.
you CAN do it!
girl you’ve said it all emphysemia, cancer death tht is enough to make you STOP
You need to get into the right mindset. You have to want to stop because YOU want to – not someone else. Try cutting down more and more and then banishing cigarettes from your house altogether. If you have nothing to smoke then you can’t, can you? Try chewing on carrots or celery as a "substitute" until the craving to smoke subsides. It may not seem like it to begin with but the desire to smoke should gradually diminish with time. If you like to smoke in particular situations then try to avoid such situations eg being in the pub (only until you are getting "better" at not smoking). Maybe some shock tactics like reading up on the horrors of what smoking does and sticking up pictures of damaged lungs etc will help. Also, put the money you save into a savings jar or similar so you can see that particular benefit of giving up as you go along
Check out this website:
http://www.cancer.org/docroot/PED/content/PED_10_13X_Guide_for_Quitting_Smoking.asp
Another thing you can is download some pictures of infected lungs as a way of motivation. Seeing the actual disease will scare the shit out of you!!
Just quit. I know what that sounds like, easier said than done, right. Well it is the best way, use the patch, gum or lozenges to replace the nicotine until you are comfortable with the withdrawal process and then stop them too. It isn’t easy but it is the best for your health and the health of others too, second hand smoke. Good Luck
if all those reasons are not helping than nothing we say will either.there is no quick and easy way to stop doing something that you like doing.quick well yes if you just stop that is quick, easy I don’t think so. I recently stopped smoking after smoking for almost 40 yrs. it wasn’t easy but it was some thing that I was tired of doing,I felt urges to smoke a lot but I knew the feelings would pass if I just said no not this time. you will only give up habits that you grow tired of. you have to want to end the habit or you won’t. it really is simple. if you want to be in control of you then you will and if you like being controlled you will. choices are ours to make and making them right isn’t always easy but wrong choices has consequences that aren’t easy to live with either.drugs,food cigarettes,caffeine white sugar and bread. all bad and hard to control they have become so natural to our everyday .they can be controlled,no they can’t be controlled,but they can be eliminated.
Try this:
Take drop of a grape flavored pop soda and put in the cigarrete’s filter, it will turn blue, then smoke it ( I assume the cigarrete is already smoking), I warn you that the taste is awful.
If the taste is really awful to you then try this every single time you smoke, I guess you’ll quit in a few days.
Good luck and remember that cigarretes kill people.
Throw your cigs away and don’t buy any more. I’m gonna go out for a smoke I think…
open a pack take outr one pitch it;and carry the pack two weeks in your bag etc and donot use again. will power good luck.harley
There’s no quick and easy way to stop the addiction, and you won’t stop smoking for your boyfriend it must be you who really wants to give up. You can go to your local cessation clinic (GP’s office can you give you contact details) who will give you counselling, support from other people who are trying to give up like you. They can also give you a prescription (at prescription cost) for up two weeks supply of nicotine replacement gum, patches etc. You will notice the difference financially straight away. I gave up two years ago after 30 years of smoking so it is possible. Good Luck
There really isn’t an easy way to quit other than to stop buying cigarettes and stop bumming them from people… think of it this way… your boyfriend is probably being as polite as he can be under the circumstances (knowing his family history)… personnally, kissing someone who smokes is like licking the bottom of an ashtray.
Great start is that you WANT to stop smoking.
My advice would be to get hypnotheraphy, 6 people I know who ranged from a ’social with a drink’ smoker to a professional 40-60 a day person went for a 2 hour session, and have not smoked since some went 2 years ago. They all went to the some guy who was recommended to me, one friend travelled from France.
No cravings, no cold turkey and as I understand it the highest statistical chance if success. This is the place and also gives the statistics under the smoking section.
Good Luck
http://www.centralhypnotherapy.com
I know this sounds like sanctimonious claptrap, but I gave up nine weeks ago by…simply stopping. I went out on the lash one night and got absolutely trolleyed, and smoked a whole pack of fags back to back on purpose. I felt absolutely horrible in the morning, and never wanted to smoke another tab ever. It worked! I told all my mates, so they were in on the deal and could offer support, and I avoided booze for a bit (we all know how a tab and a pint go together!). I can’t comment on patches, as I’ve never used ‘em. Good luck in trying – stick at it, and promise to but yourself something really nice at the end of the first month with all the loot you will have saved!
Thinking about diseases or looking at pictures of cancer-ridden lungs will not help you give up. A heavy smoker will always find a good excuse to smoke or a good explanation why the addiction is not going to be a health hazard. Same as alcoholics. The sad truth is a smoker is always a smoker. Even an ex-smoker is a smoker who doesn’t smoke. The problem is for majority of smokers, even after years of being free of the habit, the cravings can flare up at anytime. It is hard. All it takes is one cigarette and you’d be back on your addiction even after 10 years off it. (just like an alcoholic or any drug addict). So yes, it is hard work, but can be done. I don’t know about it being quick and easy. What you can try is buy yourself an ogo oxygen flask and just give yourself the occasional gulp of pure oxygen. This goes straight into your lung and you feel it! In the meantime you can start cleaning the house, scrub everything – I found this very theraputic and I watched everything getting cleaner at the same time my lungs were getting cleaner (a very psychological effect). Whilst you keep yourself busy you also keep your mind and your hands busy and then you’ll slowly get to see the marvellous results of your efforts as in not only your house gets shinier but so does your face and your internal organs. I think you only need 2-3 days to get rid of the physical cravings (the true cravings) but you may never get rid of the psychological cravings. Also, going to saunas may help as you are breathing in very hot air there like you would when you smoke. So basically, doing things that are similar to smoking (in principle) are good ways. I don’t recommend chewing gums because it is 1. just another disgusting habit 2. you may find that if you don’t chew you want a smoke 3. if you chew sugar-free ones they have a slightly laxative effect so you may be a bit ‘runny’. I hope these little tips help, they are very effective by the way. Whatever you do, however you do it, just keep in mind: the ball is in your corner and you are running the show. If you can’t do it first time, you are not a weakling and don’t believe those who say ‘just quit it’ because it is not that simple. It comes from people who never had this addiction (and aren’t they the lucky ones!). Good luck!
Have you looked at hypnotism it did actually help me, plus willpower.
I was on 40 cigs a day, I loved a ciggy but my kids hated them, so set myself a date, went to the docs, got prescribed patches, got myself psyched up waiting for the day. Day arrived put the patches on, and it was PURE HELL but I did it. It’s really down to WILL POWER and how much you want to stop. If I can do it you can, I haven’t touched a ciggy in 41/2 years.
GOOD LUCK YOU’LL DO IT IF YOU WANT. AND HEY I REALLY ENJOYED A CIG.
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12 years ago I had laser treatment to stop smoking , great, painless and I have never even thought of smoking again. N o withdrawal symptoms either.
You could see a hypnotist-you would still need some willpower but it’s easier.